This article was inspired by real life events.
During the course of this past year in the midst of a Global Pandemic drastic changes took place some for the better and others for the worst. I myself, relocated 3 times during the shutdown. For some people–this un-Earthing came in more grueling in the form of: Eviction, In-Home COVID-19 Outbreaks, Landlord negligence and bad Roommate Syndrome. But just like you– I’m trying to make sense of it all. Facebook Marketplace, Craigslists, Roomsters….you name it I’ve explored it. It’s got to be tough for those adults who had to move back home to be with parents and family forfeiting their independence because of Rent. In 2021– the year of reform and build, the goal is to avoid making mistakes that will cost you in the long run.
Here are few tips to keep the peace and harmony in the home when you’ve just move into to a shared living and environment:
Learn. Ask Questions. Get to know each other.
It may take more than a meet and greet to decide on the right fit. The initial conversation you have with potential roommates should include who you are and what you are looking for during the span of time you live there. , in all likelihood, begin before you even meet your roommate. These kinds of details are the beginning of any good roommate relationship. To be able to live successfully with another human being you do need to know to who they are, what they’re like, and how they want to live with you. So from the beginning of your relationship, share what you want the person (s) you’re living to know about you –quirky, fun, strange, serious, different etc. so that they can know when the time comes.
Take the time to think about what you need
Moving into the new environment requires that you are able to connect internally as well as enjoy the conveniences and amenities that are there. Before putting the mic to someone else take sometime to reflect and answer the questions for yourself. No matter what the situation is, though, you’re going to need to get clear with yourself. Do you need silence and alone time when you get home from work? Are there pet peeves that you have about cleanliness or spice cabinet organization? Are you comfortable having your roommate’s partner in the house every weekend? Take some time to think about it, because building a positive relationship with your roommate will first require that you are clear with yourself about what you need.
Set clear guidelines and Expectations. Respect them.
No one likes being told what to do–school is out right? Not quite. The school of life is still here and you are in enrolled in Home Economics. Ideally, you’ll come out of this conversation with a really clear understanding of what is okay and what is not okay in your home. How will you divide up chores? Who will make sure the utility bill gets paid? Will the apartment be a quiet zone at certain hours? How will you communicate when you disagree or have a conflict with one another? Some listers have used Google docs, Trello boards or chalkboards in the kitchen to keep track of shared expectations and responsibilities. It might feel a little uncomfortable to talk about your needs and expectations so early on, but it will set you up for success later.
Make time to check-in.
Again, no one likes to babysat or supervised–but it’s not about that at all. Life happens and it’s good to catch with each other especially if the household is a busy one. Having a monthly or bi-monthly apartment meeting pays off. Set aside time to check-in with each other, to find out how everyone is doing, and to discuss any household issues. You can have these meetings over your favorite snacks or beverage. Even if you and your roommate aren’t close friends, it’s worth it to take the time for these check-ins. No matter how good your guidelines are, things will come up. And it’s so easy to lose track of what’s going on with your roommate if you don’t take the time to slow down and check-in.
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